Welcome to the new home of The Masculine Mystique!


“The Masculine Mystique” is now called “XY Feminist”. I’ll be blogging here on an irregular basis, or contributing to one of my other related projects:

  • The List of Male Privileges – The project that started this whole blog. This list serves as the summary / table of contents for the majority of this blog.
  • Feminist Game Reviews – There’s a ton of sexist and misogynist video games out there, as Feminist Frequency has shown in her Tropes vs. Women in Video Games series. So I’m posting reviews for the rare games where you don’t get stuck playing  sexist stereotypes, and where the female characters are not degraded or assaulted. Submissions are also welcome!
  • The Arrow – A blog covering my first attempt to write a radical feminist science fiction novel. I’m looking for suggestions and feedback from anyone interested in the project, so I will be tossing out my ideas about sci-fi and occasionally posting drafts as well.
  • Ad-response stickers – An old project from my college years. After some particularly misogynistic ads went up in a nearby subway station, I made these nifty little stickers so that people could make their objections to the ads known. Unfortunately, this shit happens all the time, so I’ve kept the stickers online (sold at cost) for anyone else who wants them.
  • Goodreads – Where I post some of the great books that I have read, and occasional reviews of them as well!

I hope you find something useful here, and comments are always welcome.

How My Blog Works.

So I’ve completed a (relatively unscientific) traffic analysis of my blog, and have finally determined where the majority of my trolling Internet commenters were coming from. The process goes something like this:

  1. Dude harasses Sea Lions a random woman online (on Twitter, on Facebook, in comment sections, etc.).
  2. Said woman politely explains to dude that he is being an overprivileged douchebag.
  3. Dude responds with indignation and blanket, baseless rants about how “men are the real victims”.1
  4. Woman drops several precision-guided truth bombs.
  5. Dude ignores facts, continues to talk about men.
  6. Woman gives up, sends dude link to my List of Male Privileges. Further dude comments are only replied to with numbers2 referencing the current privilege that he is violating.
  7. Curious dude follows link, is immediately horrified. Stampedes to comment box at bottom of the list only to find it closed!3
  8. Woman goes back to doing useful things.
  9. After a half-hour, dude finally finds working comment box on another page of my site.4
  10. Furious typing ensues. Followed by whining to fellow MRAs on 4chan, Reddit, Facebook, etc.
  11. Dude comment, being over 500 words long, is auto-shitcanned by my comment moderation system.
  12. Profit?

I haven’t even finished many of the detailed posts and evidence for my Male Privilege List yet, but already this blog has been a complete success.

Long term, I plan on making this site into a repository on male privilege, with a detailed analysis of each privilege and its harms.

But in the meantime, if this site can serve as a place for women to eject the gaslighting douchebags that follow them around online, then it was worth it.

Thank you for making it all worthwhile!



1. Feminist Illuminati Forever!

2. Please note that the Male Privilege List gets added to and updated often, and so the numbers for a given privilege may change over time. However, pages set up for a specific privilege will not change.

3. What a horrific violation of douchebag rights!

4. The smart ones find the Male Privilege FAQ page that I specifically set up for comments and linked to twice on the Male Privilege List.
Most don’t.

A Solution to the Trans-Bathroom Debate: Liberate the Men’s Room

“Should transwomen be allowed in women’s restrooms? Yes or no?”

This is the mantra of pundits everywhere whenever the subject of transpeople is broached in the mainstream media. The mostly cis-male pundits lean over their tables, looking down at one of the few, publicly accepted, women-only spaces in the country with the same scrutinizing gaze I imagine the English had when they were drawing colonial boundaries across the world. They are more than happy to carve up someone else’s space while continuing to enjoy the excesses of their own.

Meanwhile, no pundits ever question men’s spaces. Few concerns are ever raised by media outlets about transmen in men’s bathrooms, because the foregone conclusion (that it’s open season on any transman who is found in a men’s room) is one that the mainstream media is happy to condone and ignore. And since transmen are still well under the radar of public concern [1], while women still don’t have the privilege to govern their own spaces (Virginia Wolfe’s A Room of One’s Own is, sadly, still relevant in 2015), the media is happy to draw the “battle lines” between transwomen and women’s restrooms.

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Of Skunks and Sea Lions

After Anita Sarkeesian mentioned me on Twitter last week, the trolls and MRA’s came out of the woodwork for a good ol’ fashioned dogpile.

Or as women on the Internet would call it, Monday.

However, since I am male, the number of death threats that I received during the whole furor was precisely zero (see the Male Privilege of Relative Safety).

But among the usual witless h8ters were two especially insidious kinds of trolls: the sea lions, and what I call the skunks.

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