“XY Feminist” is the new home of the blog once called “The Masculine Mystique”. I’ll be blogging here on an irregular basis, or contributing to one of my other related projects:
- The List of Male Privileges – The project that started this whole blog. This list serves as the summary / table of contents for the majority of this blog.
- Feminist Game Reviews – There’s a ton of sexist and misogynist video games out there, as Feminist Frequency has shown in her Tropes vs. Women in Video Games series. So I’m posting reviews for the rare games where you don’t get stuck playing sexist stereotypes, and where the female characters are not degraded or assaulted. Submissions are also welcome!
- The Arrow – A blog covering my first attempt to write a radical feminist science fiction novel. I’m looking for suggestions and feedback from anyone interested in the project, so I will be tossing out my ideas about sci-fi and occasionally posting drafts as well.
- Ad-response stickers – An old project from my college years. After some particularly misogynistic ads went up in a nearby subway station, I made these nifty little stickers so that people could make their objections to the ads known. Unfortunately, this shit happens all the time, so I’ve kept the stickers online (sold at cost) for anyone else who wants them.
- Goodreads – Where I post some of the great books that I have read, and occasional reviews of them as well!
I hope you find something useful here, and comments are always welcome.
It doesn’t matter if they’re family or ancient friends. It doesn’t matter if they can successfully stifle their utter contempt of you through an entire meal. This Thanksgiving, don’t feed your uncompromising, hate-spewing Trump supporters!
You’re gonna hear the refrain throughout the press: tis the season for you (not them of course, they have talking points for you!) to “heal the divide”. Even liberals will be telling you that family comes before civil rights, or that it’s your responsibility (and not that of the biased and broken press) to somehow deprogram your relatives who have embraced hatred over reason. Hell, some will even tell you to just shut up altogether and keep the drinks flowing to your most bigoted relations.
They’re all being disingenuous, to themselves and to you.
The 2016 presidential election is not just a referendum on gender or male-entitlement, but on women’s very humanity.
“Those who can make you believe absurdities, can make you commit atrocities.”
Pollsters and scientists may dither forever on whether sexism matters while they blithely underestimate misogynist sentiments of the US, and there’s no shortage of (mostly male) reporters who will come up with all sorts of bullishit reasons to blame everything but sexism for the trouble that women face.
But mark my words, the presidential election of 2016 will finally remove all doubt.
We’re sorry, but you are not allowed to use a voting booth this year. Instead, we’re gonna stuff you in a gymnasium for several unpaid hours while people shout at each other, until the most fanatical voices win.
We also regret to inform you that we’ve done away with secret ballots. Instead, you’re gonna have to voice your support for your candidate in front of a room full of agitated strangers. Pay no attention to the violence and death threats at other caucuses or the publicly released hit lists of party delegates that included their home addresses. I’m sure that 100% of your neighbors are wonderful, non-violent people, even that big guy in the back of the room with the aviator shades and racist t-shirt.
If the scenario above does NOT make you cringe or flash back to stories of caucus-related stalking, then congratulations: you’re probably a white man.
A few election cycles back, a close relative of mine received a call from a prominent polling firm. When she answered the phone, the pollster on the other end of the line introduced himself and then asked, “Is the man of the house at home?”. My relative said no, at which point the pollster thanked her for her time…and hung up.
Historically, U.S. election polls have consistently underrepresented female candidates for office:
It may come as a surprise to some, but the human rights of anyone who is not a straight cis-male are not guaranteed by the United States.
[Content Warning: Rape]
“This is why radical feminism, and delivering a radical message to young women, is so important. There are young women out there who are like how I used to be: vulnerable, insecure, self-loathing. The patriarchy tells women their worth is contingent on how fuckable men view them; liberal feminism, in its desperate attempts to create an identity for itself that contrasts against the “prudish, anti-sex” radical feminism, tells women to go for it. I felt like it was the only way I could be feminist. For so many women, sex positivity is the compulsory option. And within sex positive, liberal feminism, there is little room for dissent. Question whether promiscuity is healthy in a patriarchy? Slut shamer. Ask why men would get off on a woman’s abuse? Kink shamer. Is it any wonder that so many young women, socialised to put others before them, socialised to think they’re always wrong, don’t argue back?”
“It is often said that radical feminism is about destroying the patriarchy, while liberal feminism is about navigating the patriarchy. While I used to take this to be true, I now feel this is too charitable to liberal feminism. If it’s supposed to be a navigation, it isn’t working. I left liberal feminism utterly lost. It wasn’t until I found radical feminism that I realised both my way and my worth. Radical women must continue to have a voice despite the overwhelming opposition. After all, there are women out there right now being told the same message I was told: to fuck for their empowerment, rather than think their way to it.”
Read the full post at: Confessions of a former liberal feminist